These are excerpts from the author’s book “Deep,” which contains eight of his small books published in the form of Wisdom Literature covering different aspects of life: Facing troublemakers, dealing with pain, personal financial issues, gastronomy, reading, criticizing, inspiring, and feeling always good to go.

Week 6: Conflicts and Hurdle Races

• Rather than being unique each time, conflicts are mostly recurring events in different forms.

• Unlike school days, it is not all about memorizing lessons and scoring high on the examination paper. In practical life, be watchful of conflicts. Keep your head up and look around.

• Dealing with conflicts is much more like hurdle races: it is always about how to jump the hurdles better and faster, not removing hurdles from your way while running.

• People using the techniques of hurdles racers are more likely to be successful in dealing with conflicts than those using the techniques of short-distance racers.

• Our opponents are gifts presented to us for discovering our mistakes and weaknesses and refining our will.

• Persistence and perseverance are of the most powerful common tools in dealing with conflicts. Yet, smartness and calmness are not less important by any means.

• In conflicts it goes as in medicine: prevention is better than cure. Keep an eye on your healthy, intact relationships.

• Getting disturbed by conflicts should never stop you from utilizing relevant lessons learned.

• Always try to be ethical. However, when deciding to transfer the conflict to someone else, assure to select the proper victim carefully.

• Negotiations during conflicts are essential for all parties, not necessarily to eliminate the disputed points; negotiations are essential to convince each other jumping to the next hurdle with any kind of consent.

• A diet that encourages you to lose twenty pounds in a month is useless if you are not taught how to maintain your weight loss over the long term. You must train continuously on jumping over conflicts.

• Life is apparently more exciting than a hurdle race. It is better not to expect conflicts to be well organized; they might appear suddenly and in different shapes and volumes.

• Waiting for a conflict to resolve itself is generally not an encouraged idea. Timely avoidance could be a proactive approach. However, avoidance time is relative, depending on each case.

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