These are excerpts from the author’s book “Deep,” which contains eight of his small books published in the form of Wisdom Literature covering different aspects of life: Facing troublemakers, dealing with pain, personal financial issues, gastronomy, reading, criticizing, inspiring, and feeling always good to go.

Series 1: How to Better Manage Conflicts

Week 13: You Owe Troublemakers Thanks

• Nothing would tease a troublemaker better than a careless response. However, be ready for his following overdrawn reactions.

• Resolving conflicts is nothing but destroying a troublemaker’s natural environment. Take care when attacking others’ comfort zones.

• Contrary to what peaceful people might think, troublemakers are not trouble experts; they get annoyed when things do not meet their expectations.

• Whenever you suffer in the middle of a conflict, remember that your opponent is suffering as well.

• Troublemakers tend to appreciate power and only power; you might show your kindness as needed just for tactical purposes.

• Annoyance is not an irregular feeling during conflicts. However, you should never let others feel that you are irritated.

• Troublemakers might be smart; they bypass logical concepts in discussion deliberately. Do not waste your energy fetching logical evidences; instead, focus on being smarter and more persistent.

• It is not only that your opponent should not realize your unease; you should refresh yourself if your unease lasted quite long during the conflict.

• Troublemakers focus on gathering alliances before and throughout the conflict. Do not stand with arms folded in front of them; form your own alliances with smart, strong, and trustworthy people.

• Understanding the motivations of the troublemaker is important. However, focusing on the problem itself helps you overcome it better than focusing on the troublemaker.

• Troublemakers are not only smart problem creators fighting for themselves; they offer their services as trustworthy allies for current or even expected conflicts.

• Contrary to the common impression, a troublemaker could be a silent, calm person. Yet that is not enough to judge whether this kind of troublemakers is more dangerous or less threatening than a loud one.

• Troublemaking is a nature; however, it can be gained. The toughest challenge is to turn a genuine troublemaker into a peaceful person.

• Besides providing a toxic environment, troublemaking is a profession for some people.

• Troublemakers are not always good attackers; they are rather good teasers in their attacking and defending positions.

• You owe troublemakers thanks as they offer you free practical lessons on how to deal with other troublemakers.

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