These are excerpts from the author’s book “Deep,” which contains eight of his small books published in the form of Wisdom Literature covering different aspects of life: Facing troublemakers, dealing with pain, personal financial issues, gastronomy, reading, criticizing, inspiring, and feeling always good to go.

Series 8: Life Painkillers

This week: Betrayal

Symptom: Complete loss of trust in others.

Diagnosis: Betrayal of the first degree.

Painkiller:

• It is important to be careful before trusting others. But do not blame yourself too much as there is no guarantee regarding treacherous surprises from others.

• It may take a long time to recover from the experience. To help yourself recover faster, try to get preoccupied with topics completely distant from the incident of betrayal.

• Feel content for stopping further damages by discovering the betrayal and ending the relationship at that limit.

• Be grateful for your relationships that are still maintaining loyalty. But beware of overestimating the value of these relationships.

Treatment:

• Avoid the temptation to judge others in light of your tough betrayal experience.

• If this is a repeated betrayal from the same person, the relationship is unlikely to recover.

• If the betrayal case is experienced for the first time from someone, the utmost caution must be exercised with this person in the event of thinking about returning to the relationship.

• It is good in all cases to open wisely fresh parallel and alternative relationships with other people.

• It takes a careful balancing act between more discipline in providing confidence in future relationships and not being overly cautious about others.

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Dahab’s books are available on Goodreads and Booktasters are promoting them. This is the link to a trailer on “Damn the Novel,” his first book translated into English.