Too Good and True: “You Are Always Good to Go”

These are excerpts from the author’s book “Deep,” which contains eight of his small books published in the form of Wisdom Literature covering different aspects of life: Facing troublemakers, dealing with pain, personal financial issues, gastronomy, reading, criticizing, inspiring, and feeling always good to go.

Series 2: You Are Always Good to Go.

Week 27: Comparison on the Way

• Comparisons with others are useless when they do not push you toward enhancement. And they can be dangerous when they lead you to frustration.

• Comparison is one way of learning. To pass the exam, avoid copying.

• You will not feel happy if others compared themselves to you and just felt happy. They should be inspired by that comparison and get busy.

• In general, spontaneous comparisons tend to be more fruitful than intended ones.

• There are no absolute comparisons. Be specific in determining the area of comparison, and be objective in the judgment.

• It seems safer to compare others to others than to compare others to yourself. That is not necessarily accurate. You still need to be specific and objective.

• Avoid exaggerating comparisons. Remember that the alerting question in this regard is, “How severely do I compare?” rather than, “How often do I compare?”

• Focus on inspiring others after they compare themselves to you rather than just leaving them to feel jealous.

• Slight jealousy is normal after comparing yourself to someone having more admirable qualities in certain areas. But make sure to move quickly toward practical steps to enhance your actions.

• Comparisons should not be your primary tools for development. You must continuously set and update benchmarks considering your current achievements and future potential.

• It is not that you cannot avoid comparisons, you should not avoid comparisons.

• If you aim to be special, you need to know exactly how others look and act.

• Being special demands that you accept the fact that others might exceed you in areas of comparison. Uniqueness is something rarely relevant to any sort of quantities.

• Your insistence on selflessness toward others means that you want to be better off than they are through that behavior.

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