These are excerpts from the author’s book “Deep,” which contains eight of his small books published in the form of Wisdom Literature covering different aspects of life: Facing troublemakers, dealing with pain, personal financial issues, gastronomy, reading, criticizing, inspiring, and feeling always good to go.

Week 8: Prioritizing Your Conflicts

• Classification of conflicts priorities is a personal judgment; nobody is better accountable than you about priorities in dealing with your conflicts.

• Still, it is a good idea to get advice from trusted people around you.

• Avoid letting your opponents set your conflicts priorities; this could happen either when you slow down or when you rush in your reactions toward concurrent conflicts.

• Like an examination paper, it is better to start with the easiest-solved conflict.

• Frequently reevaluating your conflicts priorities is a useful tool to enhance your overall performance dealing with conflicts. This might help you eliminate inactive conflicts from your pending list.

• You do not need to worry about their prioritization; urgent conflicts do not fit in your “conflicts to solve” waiting list.

• It is not only philosophers who have their own way of living; everybody does. Similarly, you do not need to be an expert to have your own approach to deal with conflicts.

• When you attempt to eliminate or reduce conflicts (conflict resolution), you might lose the chance of getting use of a conflict. When you attempt to benefit from reasonable levels of conflicts (conflict management), you might hurt yourself underestimating the criticality of a conflict. Assure always to make your own tailor-made evaluation for each conflict.

• Win-lose negotiations, win-win negotiations, conflict management, conflict resolution, and others are examples. You do not necessarily need to follow any approved method or technique in negotiations or dealing with conflicts; you are free to create your own ideas.

• You will be able to create your approach, or at least use your own interpretation of known methods, if you genuinely desire to win a negotiation or overcome a conflict. Believe deeply in yourself.